Tony Robbins: The PHILOSOPHY of Living A Happy Life ( Tony Robbins Meditation )
Today's. Whole program is based on the power of focus, we. If you recall in our last session we're talking about how to really direct our states of mind and emotion we, said that everything, that we really want in our lives no, matter what it is whether it be family or friends, a relationship, or money. Or business, success, or acknowledging all those things the only reason we want them is what, we think we'll get out of them which is a state change a certain, level of feeling, within ourselves we. Also found out on our last tape that all emotions. Every feeling we have is the, result of how we use our body but, emotions, literally, are nothing but physiological. Storms. In our brains if you will and that we learned that by using our bodies, in certain ways by using our voice our gestures. Our breathing our facial expressions we could radically, change our states and we, also talked about the idea if you're a call of measuring, our states where, are we on a scale from zero to ten ten, being absolutely, empowered, unstoppable. Passionate, zero, being dead and noticing. Are we at the appropriate, level for what we want to accomplish and, that for most cases not all in life but most would. It be nice to live at level 8 9 or 10 or above on a consistent, basis, how much more juice would you have and so you develop some exercises. And discovering how to move your body not, like me not like somebody else but, like you do when you really are feeling absolutely excellent. Today. What, we want to do is take on the second, way we can manage our states and the, second, way to change your state at any moment, in time as quickly as you can think it is to, control and direct the, focus, of your mind what, do I mean by that well. Think about this the, only experience that you have of life comes in two forms what, you're physically, feeling because of the condition, and use of your body at that moment in, other words if you've got physical, pain that's obviously, going to affect your state there's some kind of tension for example or if you haven't had any sleep that's, certainly an effect your state as well or if, you've eaten something that's blown your blood sugar sky-high then, obviously that's, gonna affect your emotional states as well the.
Only Other thing that really controls. Your state is what are you paying attention to right now at this moment I mean, let's take an example, have you ever had a headache, maybe even a massive, headache that you thought there's no way you would ever go away you're really deep, pain now. What do you do well most people go get an aspirin what, if instead have. You ever had it happen where somebody, asked you a question or, something. Needed to be done or something acquired your total, focus somewhere, else outside, of yourself and a lamo, immediately. The pain disappeared, in fact you forgot about it and later, on when you thought about it you notice your headache was gone haven't. You had that happen at least once or twice in your life now, how did you do that see, my, whole life has been studying, what makes people successful if, someone is able to do something if they're able to get rapport with somebody else if they're able to create the results they want physically, in their life that is lose weight feel energized, if they're able to create the relationships, that they really desire if they're able to feel as good as they ever wanted to feel I want to know how do they do that and so, I began to study how could somebody get rid of a headache that quickly so we wouldn't be dependent on some drug like aspirin, or Tylenol or anything else and I, began to realize that what it was is we changed, our mental focus and that. Whatever experiencing. In our body really comes from what we're paying attention to that's, what really determines how you feel and of, course how you feel determines, usually, how you're gonna behave doesn't, that make sense when, you're feeling really lousy you don't usually do really well and I know there are exceptions but those exceptions, are because you control your focus you don't focus on feeling lousy you focus on what's got to be done there. Was tremendous power. And controlling. The focus of your mind now, what do I mean by this specifically. Well, there are two things we can control in terms of focus we, can control what we're focusing, on that, is what, we're picturing, in our mind what we're saying to ourselves what, we're paying attention to in our physical, body or. We. Can control how, we're focusing, how. We're focusing, means let's, say the dimension, of the pictures in our mind the brightness, of the colors in our head the volume, of our sounds if we change how we're, paying attention to things not just what it, radically, changes our state as well let. Me give an example, pretend. For a moment that your, brain, is a camera, and you, go to a party, how. Are you gonna feel at that party, well the only thing you're gonna have feelings about other things you focus on it I mean, in that room literally, they're, almost unlimited. Number of activities, and probably, emotions and conversations, and things that are going on but, your experience. Of that, party, is based, on what that camera focuses, on now. If it focuses on two people that are fighting and that's, what it focuses on for the entire party you would leave that party saying oh that party, was really intense I mean people are really upset with each other if. Your focus was on two people in love who, or maybe kissing passionately and. Say wow that party was really moving I mean those people are really connected, if your focus was on some people that were really boring or bored, it's, a nobody really enjoyed that party, here's, the problem the problem is your camera, that is the focus that you have does not usually take in everything, simultaneously. Your conscious, mind can't, there. Are only so many things you can consciously focus on I mean think about how many things right now you are not paying attention to that are happening at this moment there's. The blood pulsating through your right ear you, may not even pay attention to it I mention it now you might focus on it there's, the beat of your heart where you even noticing that until, I mentioned, it there's, the feel of maybe some air coming from an air conditioning, maybe if you're nearby or there's, the heat on your skin or, there's the blinking of your eyes there are unlimited number. Of things that are happening right now but see here's the thing about human beings since. We can't focus on everything and consciously. Perceive it all what. Most of us do is we become what I call deletion. Creatures, what, do I mean I mean that most of the time most, of us delete. That as we fail to pay attention to or we, ignore, most, of what's going on around us at any moment in time so.
What's The price of all this deletion well. The price is we, walk, around believing, or, hallucinating. Might be a better word that our experience, of the world is real now. Would you think that if you were looking through a camera that was focused on one little portion of the party that that was truly the party it wouldn't be very intelligent with it in fact, you know what else is a problem that, camera, may even create close-ups. Where, it makes things bigger than they actually are where they look bigger and brighter or worse than they were is that possible, - do, you think your brain does that as well you, better believe it does so. The key is if you want your life to be a party, you're happy with I'm not a party that you're upset with you, got to realize that any moment in time there's, enough going on in the party of your life that you could find something to be upset about all you've got to do is focus on all, you gotta do is look around that party find out areas that don't match your expectations, make, them big and bright and close, and you'll be upset and, you know what most people are good at this they've, done it over and over and over again the. Other thing that's equally, true is that, virtually any party, at any moment in time there's somebody having a good time and if, you were to focus on some area of your life at that moment of time you can make yourself feel absolutely, great or you could take some little thing something. That's just kind of nice but make it bigger and brighter and immediately, you, can feel better about it as well so here's my point my, point is, if you want to look at the quality of life and know what it is it's, the quality of the states that you live in day to day I mean isn't it really true isn't, it how you feel day to day that, determines how you treat yourself how you treat other people and how, great, you feel or how poor you feel about your life what. Determines it one how, you use your body so you want to develop some new habits and to what. And how, you focus, on things now. That's the only way we can explain how people have come from, unbelievably. Painful experiences. And turn, them around w, Mitchell secret, is he, has controlled his physical, body specifically. The way he uses his face this. Man has learned with what's left of his body to, smile and move his face in ways that makes him feel incredible, and the second thing is he focuses, continuously. On what he wants what he's got what he's grateful for and as a result he feels incredible, now, nobody. Would blame him for looking around and seeing he has no legs and. He has no fingers he's got the toes there instead and he's. In a situation, where he's in physical, pain a lot of the time nobody, would blame him for feeling sorry for himself but see he doesn't focus on that he. Loves, life, because, he focuses, on the part of the party that's the best part for him don't. You deserve to give yourself the same gift, now. Take a look at John Belushi, example, we used earlier also how could a guy like Belushi, or Presley, or take, somebody like Elizabeth, Taylor here's. A lady that would have everything going forward by most people's standards she's. An incredibly, in telogen woman she's absolutely beautiful she's.
A Great actress she. Has thousands. And thousands, probably millions of, fans to be more accurate who absolutely love her she. Has as much money as most people could ever imagine needing, or wanting she. Has a lifestyle, that's absolutely, phenomenal, she has family and friends, that care about her and do anything for her and, yet what happens with this lady she has not learned to manage her stay and she pays the price as great as she is great. On the stage but in a personal life over and over again she has to turn to food or to drugs to try and take care of the challenges, within herself, see. How, could someone have it all and still be unhappy because, no matter how good it is you can always focus, on something that isn't perfect or doesn't, match your expectations and that is called ultimate, failure in life you. Want to know what I believe success is success. Is creating, consistent. Pleasure in your life and causing, yourself to grow, failure. Is being able to find pain no matter how good it is that's, failure, the. Bottom line is you have that power and you can change it right now by understanding that you make decisions. About what to focus on now. It may be true, that you've got some bad habits it may be true that right, now you look at what's worse or you look at what's wrong or you see what's not, working in your life and it's habitual so you don't think about it consciously but, you still make the decisions, you, can turn off the automatic pilot, and take control and when you do you can instantly, change the quality of your life the. Lady I married my wife Becky one, things I loved about her more than anything in the world the reason I married her probably more than anything else is this, woman, is so, incredible. In her ability, at any moment, in time to focus, on what is great in a situation, what is beautiful the most little things she, and I share that power where. We can be in the middle of anything the middle of turmoil, and upsets and frustrations, and in a heartbeat we, can stop and we say hey look notice, that flower notice, that sunset, or look in each other's eyes and say how did I get so lucky to get you we, have that ability and we share we reinforce, it in each other and it gives power to our relationship, and to our lives you. Have that control, all, you have to do is exercise, it so, what I want to do is be more specific with you now and how to do it now first of all let, me demonstrate this is really true to you I mean you may say well yeah this makes sense well let's take a quick example now, this may be an unfair situation if, you're in a place that you're familiar with but let's try this right now and if you're in a place you're familiar with you might want to try it later on in the day when you're not familiar with something but let's, take an example here what I want you to do right now is. I'd like you if you would let's, test the power of something I want, you to look around your room the room you're in right now or if you're in your car you. Can look out the windows also but I want you to notice everything. You can see. Everything. You can see and only gonna give you a few seconds that, is brown quick look around the room everything, you can see that's brown look around your car look outside everything you see is Brown quickly everything make sure you don't miss anything everything, sees Brown quick quick quick okay, stop close your eyes, with. Your eyes closed now close your eyes if you're driving this is difficult okay so. You might want to try this later as an exercise but I would like you to do is close your on it and. What. I want you to do with your eyes closed now is tell me or, you know since I'm not there literally although I maybe you never know but just for now outloud say. Everything. That's in this room that. Is green, Oh. Hooked. You a little bit huh, you.
More Waiting for Brown tell, me out loud come on everything that's green try, this everything. In that room that's blue. Everything. In the room that, is white, and. Everything. In the room that's red. And now. Open your eyes and look, around the room and notice everything you can see in this room that's green come on take a good look now some, of you may say well there's nothing that's run this game look behind you there there's something green behind you that's. Right, what's. Blue in this room now. Do you see a lot more green, do you see a lot more blue now than you did the first time unless. You're in a room you already are super familiar with that is you've already got a picture in your head and you know it like maybe it's your bedroom you know everything, even then you may not have noticed everything but. If you're in a strange room or you're in a place you're not used to what, I find is 99%, of time people see a lot more blue and green when I asked them about that specifically, later on in other words when I asked you to focus on brown bats, what comes up you, notice mostly, brown you tend to delete a lot of the other details, isn't that true now. How does that relate to life see, a lot of people in life stare, at and focus on the brown in life the shall. We say feces. Of life and other, people they look for the green they look for it's growing they look for what's alive that's. What you need to do see. In life we get whatever we focus on whatever, you pay attention to that's what you experience in your body instantly, so, how do we control our focus well, that's a good question for, years I've been looking at it you know I read all the books on positive, thinking where they said hey you want to do good you've got to feel good that makes sense and if you want to feel good you've got the doctor yourself good and picture good well. The challenge with that the challenge with positive thinking is what we've already talked about probably. Positive thinking is you got to think about it and it's a little bit difficult we got to get ourselves conditioned. To think more positive, plus I kept, asking the question how, do you think positive it's a B positive how. Well. I said you know make good pictures why didn't get yourself to do that and. So what I've analysed for years is what. Determines since, there are zillions of things you and I could pay attention to at any moment what determines what we focus on well. Some. Of what we focus on or most of it is based upon our beliefs of what's important, in our values, and we're going to talk about that in the next tape but. For right now the thing, that at this specific, moment, determines. What you focus, on is, how you're evaluating, things. Now that sounds like a big chunk but.
What Do I mean by that well, the way we evaluate things, determines, how we feel but what is an evaluation. Evaluations. Are nothing, but questions. The. Way I found this out is one day I was realizing well you. Know W Mitchell is pretty happy because he's evaluated, his life in a way that makes him happy John. Belushi's, not here because of the way he evaluated, things he made himself actually feel bad I mean he had plenty could have felt good on if he just focused on that part of his life's party, if you will so. I thought how do I explain what an evaluation, is and then. I noticed, that I had asked a question to. Try to evaluate how to explain evaluations, and I thought well. Is it possible that evaluations, or questions, I thought. Wow that's a question too isn't it uh-huh that's a question isn't it I thought, is, that really what evaluation, is is a question you, notice that was a question pretty soon I've whipped myself in a frenzy began to realize, evaluations. Are in fact questions and I try to mismatch, it as I try to look at the opposite side and. I've tested on all kinds of people maybe you can find the opposite of what I'm saying but I don't know I have, found that thinking, is nothing. But the process of evaluating, things you're always evaluating, what does this mean to me and what should I do those, are two questions, your brain is asking on a continuous, basis see. If I take my fist then I go wham and I bring it within two inches of your face I guarantee. You your brain is gonna make some evaluations, the question number one what does this mean question number two what should I do and your brains gonna value, it it's gonna search your brain for your beliefs about what does this mean do I need to move is it gonna hit me what does this mean and what should I do do I hit back do I adjust what, what does my body need to do we're always asking. Those two primary, questions but, the questions we ask determine what we focus on here, let me be more specific and I'll think you'll have an example of what I mean I've said. To you so far in this tape that what you focus, on determines. How you feel I've. Also said that the questions, you ask yourself determine, what you focus on think. Of questions this way, imagine. Your brain is the ultimate, computer and in. That computer is the answer to any question you, could possibly have and by the way I believe that that metaphor, is really how your brain works it, can come up with the answer to any question you, ask it Bible. Says ask and, you shall receive a, very. True and real statement beyond. What you might believe religiously, even if you have different religious beliefs it, is reality in my experience, of how our brain works now. If, you have this great computer, and in front of you the only way you get information out of this computer is to ask for it you tap, in to this keyboard and you ask questions and bam and answer, the questions you will get responses, on the screen your. Brain works the same way you, ask questions, you hit the keyboard with questions and it will fire off the answers in your brain but here's what's different about your brain than most computers, whatever. Question. You ask if you, ask it with the absolute, expectation. That you're gonna get an answer and if, you ask it consistently, and you give it a brain time to search for the answers you, will get an answer by. The way any question. You ask you'll get an answer to even, one that doesn't have a basis in reality in other words this computer, will do anything it'll search its files and make things up in order to answer your question what, do I mean well, if you go around ask your brain why, do these things always happen to me well. Guess what your brain will search all its databases and say why do things always happen to me and it'll take every possible form of input of what people said to you in your life what you've ever said to yourself which, you've ever read or saw on TV and I'll make up an answer for you it always happens to you because you're a turkey that's why right. And I'm sure enough now you feel lousy you see gosh I'm a turkey you feel bad and everything's not working out see. Whatever, you ask you to get an answer to if you say how come I'm so lucky you. Know how did I get so lucky your brain will search all kinds of things and show you that you're lucky in other, words our questions, determine, how we feel now if you've got certain emotions, certain.
Feelings, That, you have on a daily basis that you don't like, habitual. Emotions, I'm, here to tell you that the feelings you feel or come from what you focus on so. What you have is habitual, focuses, and those focuses come from habitual, questions, in other words if. You feel certain ways on an ongoing basis, it's, because you're asking certain questions on, an ongoing basis, might. Be useful if we discover what those are I'll, give you some samples. Questions. That people ask themselves on a regular. Basis that make them feel lousy, question, number one is why, does this always happen to me I want. You to notice in that question, is something we call a, presupposition. A presupposition. Means, you, are presupposing. In the question the things already happened to you that may not be true but, as long as you ask questions that way your brain will make up an answer for you hey, I'll give you a good example after, the 1988, Republican. National Convention when. George Bush selected. Dan Quayle as his running mate, CNN. Ran a public, opinion poll will you call the 900, number and vote yes. Or no to the answer to a question but. Here is the question it blew my mind question, was, does. It bother you that Dan. Quayle used, his family's, influence, to stay out of Vietnam and again. In the National Guard now, I'm paraphrasing just, slightly but that's what they said, now, tell me what's, wrong with this picture and. Challenges. They presuppose, that he actually did it they said does it bother you so your brain stops, evaluating. Whether he actually did it or not and focuses, on whether it bothers you or not does, this happen every day with you do, you ask questions, that presuppose, that you've got a limited level of intelligence, or skill or ability and, therefore, get lousy answers, in your brain listen. If, you ask yourself questions like why am I so fat that. Question. Guarantees, you're gonna stay fat you. Know why cuz you go why am I so fat your brain will go okay let me figure out some reasons wham-o here's why you're fat cuz, you eat continuously, and you have no control your. Brain goes oh god I don't need control and you feel useless and you feel like you're disempowered, what. Would be a better question to ask yourself then why am I so fat how, about this one how, can I become more thin right now or. What. Could I do today to, start, myself on the road to becoming more thin and what do I need to do consistently. To create the long-term, results of health that I want if you. Ask a better-quality question. You, will get a better quality answer, or. I'll give you a step beyond that if. You ask a question like how. Can I become more thin now you'll, get an answer but, what if you ask a question like how. Can become more thin now and enjoy, the process. Ah, magical. When, you ask that question what. Happens now is you literally come up with only an answer of how to lose weight but, also how to enjoy it and since your brain likes pleasure, there's, a much better chance you're gonna follow through am, I making any sense to you I'm, here to tell you that the quality of your life comes. Down to the quality, of the questions you ask yourself on a daily, basis, so. If you're asking questions like well, how come I can't ever learn anything just. Listen to that question, or why, can't I ever learn anything that's even worse why. Questions. Tend to be what I call endless. Loop questions, like. Why did this happen to me see. Your brain probably can never come up with a definitive, answer it'll come up with all kinds of reasons but, you'll keep going into a loop now. I discovered, the power of questions in my own life because at one time my life I was really, really angry and, anyone. Have changed my physiology and my movement, to make myself feel better but I didn't want to you ever been in that state like. Somebody said to me well Tony just changed your physiology I, don't want to write.
I Was upset but. The reason I was upset is what I was focusing on I was focusing, on somebody, who, had taken a bunch of money from my company and embezzled. It and I got pretty upset to say the least and I was walking around in a frenzy going how could he do this how could he have the audacity, to do this I may, have even had an expletive her too who, knows but. The point is that by asking those questions I was whipping myself into frenzy how could he possibly do, this why, would he do this situation, to me well, guess, what you're never gonna get an answer to that all it does is whip you into more and more of a frenzy can you hear it so. Finally I said okay doing. This is leading, to more and more pain isn't making my life any better I better ask myself a more empowering question, so, I thought what's something that's important, to me my answer is I love, to learn I already shared that with you so I said okay what can I learn from this, well. Guess what my. Brain likes learning so, it was willing to focus on that question and. You know what out of that question of what can I learn from this over. The next three months, I literally. Developed, a whole new level of understanding about what makes human beings do what they do I develop, literally a whole new technology, which I call destiny, technologies. Now to a whole seminar called your date with destiny and we help people literally, design, their, life so they are literally pulled, forward, in the direction they want their life to be rather, than having all this self-sabotage. And challenges that come up for people it's the most incredible program. I do it'll all came out of me, taking a horrible situation and asking a better question what, kind of learn from this what can I get out of this that would enhance my life and other people's as well how, can I use this situation, to create much more power in my ability to help people and help myself, asking. These questions allowed, me to search my brains data banks and create, tremendous power, out of that situation. After. I was in that situation I had other times when I get upset unbearably, when I get upset it's cuz I was asking a why question why, did this person do this I don't understand, or how could they possibly have, done it cuz I would never do that how could they do that I'll. Never get the answer based on that so, I learned to ask the question what can I learn from this now, for you that might not be the right question, maybe, learning is not important enough for you a brain to go while I'm willing to focus on that now instead of the problem but. My brain I pick learning or I pick something like well, if. I'm angry at somebody I might say well what do I respect, about this person, now. I remember one particular guy said what do I respect about him there was this guy who'd stolen a bunch of my stuff and I. Thought well, at least he's using my stuff, you. Know I respect, him he's at least using it he isn't just sitting back there right sitting, on his haunches here in stop he's at least using it I respect that what else I respect about him well well. He's at least going for it and you know and even though I don't think he's doing for the right reasons he's probably opened a few people who knows you know and I began to literally feel better, that, again asked myself this question, what's. Actually funny about this that I hadn't noticed, great. Question, ask yourself what's, actually funny about this I hadn't noticed now again when you ask a question you got to be willing to really search, for the answer if you got well it's great about this that I hadn't noticed or what you, didn't.
Notice What's humorous about this I didn't notice and, guess what there's no way your brains not gonna go for it but, if you ask with a sincere interest, and desire for an answer you will get one if you keep asking and, so all sudden I started noticing things about their humors I started laughing hey. Listen we've all heard the phrase someday. We'll look back, laughs on this situation well. That's really true why, wait why, not look back and laugh on it now wait. Four years before you can feel good about something, again and the way to do it is change, your focus the way to change your focus is use questions. They're, much more powerful than any other tool I've noticed I'll, tell you why. Questions. Basically do three things when you ask a question number, one when you ask somebody a question it, instantly, changes what they focus on and therefore, it changes the way you feel instantly. See. If. You're feeling lousy and I come along and I get you to answer a question like well I missed your question what. Is great in your life right now you. Oh well nothing I go on I know nothing is but if there was something that was great you. Know what what could be great in your life if, I get you to really think about it what it makes your brain do is search your files and you know what no matter how bad your life may seem there's, something, great going on there's, no doubt about it you know here, you are and all your friends is weaking or skiing but you're home studying, for a big test do you feel cheated you feel left out you feel hurt hey. Listen all you need is a little contrast, for yourself what's, great right, now this weekend you're studying things that can make a huge difference in the quality of your life forever. These people are gonna work their muscles and come back and probably forget about that situation right, or you're not in a Nazi concentration camp. There's a little contrast, for you you get to be learning, because you choose to not because you're forced to you're, studying something that you chose, to study you're. Actually creating a future for yourself you're getting to use your brain there's so many things you could focus on you're, in a free country, you're alive you've got friends yet people that care about you during millions of things you, can feel good about all you have to do is change your focus and, if you don't you. End up like the John Belushi's, of the world, think. About. See, the choice is yours, so. If I ask you a question like what could be great in your life or what's great right now if you really think about it you can come up with something think about it right now what's. Really great in your life right now what's. Something that you feel really great about. Think. About it. Or. What could you feel great about if you wanted to. As. You think about things that make you feel great. Notice. How it makes you feel when you think about that what about that why, does that make you feel great how. Does that make you feel inside, when you feel those feelings and. You know what you can change your state instantly, just by focusing on that at any moment, in time, so. The, first thing questions do is they change our focus and therefore our state immediately the, second, thing that questions, do is they, change what we're deleting now, remember, in order, to feel unhappy, you.
Have To focus on the things that would make you unhappy and you. Have to delete all the great things that are happening in your life isn't that true in. Other words every one of us right now could get depressed piece of cake, all we have to do is focus on all the tragedy, that's happening the world right now even little pieces of it children. They're dying right now starvation. We can make pictures in our head of those bloated stomachs hearing, the cries of babies just as they pass off into death sing flies eating, their flesh how's that for graphic, at. The same time every, one of us could be an absolute, total pleasure interrupts. That pattern of, a picture you're looking at and think, of something that could create total pleasure and you know what their resilient, things but. To do that you have to stop focusing you have to delete all the negativity, in the world and focus on things that make it feel great so, you could focus on a relationship, you have you, could focus on how much you've already learned in the last six or seven or eight days you, could focus on the people that loved you you could focus on your ability. As a human being to change your life at any moment, in time you could focus on what learning means to you you could focus on the Sun you, could focus on breathing fresh air you could focus on the fact you live in a free country you could focus on the fact that you have a connection with your Creator you could focus on anything and feel, incredible, you could focus on new babies being born this, moment, they have a greater opportunity in. Life than, any time in our history, there's. So much we could focus on it feel good about the. Challenge, is this you. Must control it through questions, questions. Change what we delete, we're always deleting, human, beings we're not gonna stop deleting things as long, as we're gonna delete things why not delete things that disempower, you and focus, on the things that empower you does that make sense the. Third thing that questions, do is they, help you to get access to resources within. Yourself I'm. A big believer that anything you've ever wanted to accomplish you've, already got the resources inside of you to make it happen that doesn't mean you shouldn't go out and learn from somebody else or model, the success of others I'm just saying the things you need to succeed are already in your core the, resources, are there you, just need to get access to them by asking better questions, I'll. Give you an example if, I ask myself questions like gosh. Can I really do this that. Creates a feeling of doubt do you hear how that does that and that feeling of doubt will keep me in a state where I'm not gonna get the most out of myself but, if instead I ask myself a question like, how, can I make this thing happen right, now more powerfully, than I ever dreamed of and have fun doing it if, I keep asking that question my, brain, will get access, to more of my ability, because whatever I asked for my brain will give me but, if you ask your brain can I really do this and you do it with a tone of voice of doubt you are gonna get access to the resources called doubt does, that make sense if. You will think about it the greatest communicators. The greatest, teachers, of all time were, not people that so much taught us as they did ask, us they. Shared things with us but they got us to use our own resources they asked questions all the great speakers have done this hey, Martin Luther King asked questions, about a dream John, F Kennedy asked, don't ask what your country can do for you ask, what you can do for your country he wanted you to take the resources out of yourself and contribute, and expand, our country you. Must learn to ask habitual, questions, that empower you I want, you to know that I believe the. Success, in my life has all come down to one basic, skill state. Management on, a consistent, basis, I've learned how to manage my state and therefore, I've, been able to get myself to breakthrough and take action, with very few people around me were able to do the same they were able to that's probably not the best description, they weren't using their power because they didn't have access to all of it and I've done that by everyday doing, things that would increase my physical, ability, flexibility. Power energy by the way I'm moving the way I breathe and also. By, consistently. And daily. Conditioning. Myself to, ask the kinds of questions to create the kinds of focus, that moves me towards, larger, levels of contribution.
And Joy and fun and success, and passion. Instead. Of the things that would pull me down that. Would pull me to areas of frustration, and anger and giving up listen. There is no capability. Difference, between you and someone, you consider to be an ultimate role model of success the. Only difference, is they learn to use their mind and body with more power on a consistent basis, they've learned a manager state they've learned to use their body effectively, whether they know it or not consciously, doesn't matter a lot of people do things without being aware of how they do it and they've. Learned to control their mental focus remember. Whatever we concentrate. Our focus on consistently. And strive to learn from and make, new distinctions, about we, will get great at I don't, care what it is if you focus on it daily and you strive to do better you're, gonna make little distinctions. That'll make you more and more effective every single. Day so. You better decide what you want to focus on in your life and what you want to experience on a daily basis, because that's where your power is gonna come from that's where your power is gonna emit from that's the genesis, of your power I want. You to know that many things that you think are impossible, or difficult are, only. Difficult. Or impossible because, of the way you're focusing, on things you're focusing, on how it can't be done and you can remember whatever, you focus on is what you get so, if you focus on how it can't be done you are absolutely. Right and no one's gonna prove you wrong so. Why not focus on what's possible and create that I mean that's how I created things like the firewalk seminar, all I did was hold a new level of possibility, instead of focusing on how it couldn't be done when I was a terrible thing or something, like that I focused on hey this is an incredible example of possibility, and if, other people can do it my focus and my question is if they can do it then how can we do it how can I share with other people how could it be used as an empowering experience it's a lot of fun I did. The same thing with teach people wood breaking you, know I teach people how to break wood karate style not in two years but in about minutes again, not to make them this powerful person, but to show them that by simply changing their mental focus by, controlling, their physical, emotional state, and by, modeling, someone's success that, they can get results in 30 minutes that takes most people two years and they have what we call a breakthrough literally. I want. You to know that you have every, right in any moment of time to feel lousy to, feel bad to feel sorry to, feel hurt I am not saying by this tape program that you should never be disappointed or frustrated or, angry or anything else because, all of those emotions, have their place in their, proper proportion, hey, some of my greatest frustrations. Or angers or upsets or would have driven some of my greatest successes because it's made me search for more but. See what's, interesting is the, pain drove me but, what changed me from other people who just gave up is I ask better questions, I found. A way say, what can I learn from this how can I grow from this how can I expand from this what, can I take from this experience that will empower me what can I learn from this so I never have to experience it again and. By asking empowering, questions, how can I take advantage of this what's the actual benefit, in this situation. Today's. Whole program is based on the power of focus we. If you recall in our last session we're talking about how to really direct our states of mind and emotion we, said that everything, that we really want our lives no, matter what it is whether it be family or friends, a relationship, or money. Or business, success, or acknowledging all those things the only reason we want them is what, we think we'll get out of them which is a state change a certain, level of feeling, within ourselves, we, also found out on our last tape that all emotions. Every feeling we have is, the result of how we use our body that, emotions, literally, are nothing, but physiological. Storm. Today's. Whole program is based on the power of focus we. If you recall in our last session we're talking about how to really direct our states of mind and emotion we, said that everything, that we really want in our lives no, matter what it is whether it be family or friends, a relationship, or money.
Or Business, success or acknowledging all those things the only reason we want them is what, we think we'll get out of them which is a state change a certain, level of feeling, within ourselves we. Also found out in our last tape that all emotions. Every feeling we have is the, result of how you. Today's. Whole program is based on the power of focus, we. If you recall in our last session we're talking about how to really direct our states of mind and emotion we, said that everything, that we really want our lives no, matter what it is whether it be family or friends, a relationship, or money. Or business, success, or acknowledging all those things the only reason we want them is what, we think we'll get out of them which is a state change a certain, level of feeling, within ourselves, we, also found out on our last tape that all emotions. Every feeling we have is the, result of how we use our body that, emotions, literally, are nothing, but physiological. Storms. In our brains if you will and that we, learned that by using our bodies in certain ways by, using our voice our gestures. Our breathing, our facial expressions we could radically, change our states and, we also talked about the idea if you're a call of measuring, our states where. Are we on a scale from zero to 10 10 being absolutely. Empowered. Unstoppable. Passionate, zero, being dead and noticing. Are we at the appropriate, level for what we want to accomplish and, that for most cases not all in life but most would. It be nice to live at level 8 9 or 10 or above on a consistent, basis, how much more juice would you have and so, you develop some exercises. And discovering how to move your body not. Like me not like somebody else but, like you do when you really are feeling absolutely excellent. Today. What, we want to do is take on the second, way we can manage our states and the, second, way to change your state at any moment, in time as quickly as you can think it is to, control and direct the, focus, of your mind, what, do I mean by that, well, think about this the, only experience that you have of life comes, in two forms what, you're physically, feeling because, of the condition, and use of your body at that moment in, other words if you've got physical, pain that's obviously, gonna affect your state there's some kind of tension for example or if, you haven't had any sleep that's, certainly gonna affect your state as well or if, you've eaten something that's blown your blood sugar sky-high then, obviously that's, gonna affect your emotional states as well the.
Only Other thing that really controls, your state is what are you paying attention to, right now at this moment I, mean, let's take an example have, you ever had a headache maybe even a mad of headache that you thought there's no way you would ever go away you are really deep, pain now. What do you do well most people go get an aspirin what, if instead have. You ever had it happen where somebody, asked you a question or, something, needed to be done or something acquired your total, focus somewhere else outside of yourself and a lamo, immediately. The pain disappeared, in fact you forgot about it and later, on when you thought about it you notice your headache was gone haven't, you had that happen at least once or twice in your life now, how did you do that see, my, whole life has been studying, what makes people successful if, someone is able to do something if they're able to get rapport with somebody else if they're able to create the results they want physically. In their life that is lose weight feel energized, if they're able to create the relationships, that they really desire if they're able to feel as good as they ever wanted to feel I want to know how do they do that and so I began to study how could somebody get rid of a headache that quickly so we wouldn't be dependent on some drug like aspirin, or Tylenol or anything else and I, began to realize that what it was is we changed, our mental focus and that. Whatever experiencing. In our body really comes from what we're paying attention to that's. What really determines how you feel and of, course how you feel determines, usually, how you're gonna behave doesn't, that make sense when you're feeling really lousy you don't usually do really well and I know there are exceptions but those exceptions, are because you control your focus you don't focus on feeling lousy you focus on what's got to be done there. Was tremendous power. And controlling. The focus of your mind now, what do I mean by this specifically. Well, there are two things we can control in terms of focus we, can control what we're focusing, on that, is what, we're picturing, in our mind what we're saying to ourselves what, we're paying attention to in our physical body or. We. Can control how we're focusing, how. We're focusing, means let's, say the dimension, of the pictures in our mind the brightness, of the colors in our head the volume, of our sounds if we change how we're, paying attention to things not just what it, radically, changes our state as well let. Me give an example, pretend. For a moment that, your brain, is a camera, and you, go to a party, how. Are you gonna feel at that party, well, the only thing you're gonna have feelings about other things you focus on I mean, in that room literally, there, are almost unlimited, number, of activities and probably, emotions and conversations, and things that are but, your experience of. That party. Is based, on what that camera focuses on now. If it focuses on two people that are fighting and that's, what it focuses on for the entire party you would leave that party saying oh that party was really intense I mean people are really upset with each other if. Your focus was on two people and love or, maybe guessing passionately and say wow that party was really moving I mean those people are really connected, if your focus was on some people that were really boring or bored it's, a no but really enjoyed that party, here's. The problem the, problem is your camera, that is the focus that you have does not usually take in everything, simultaneously. Your, conscious, mind can't, there. Are only so many things you can consciously focus on I mean think about how many things right now you are not paying attention to that, are happening at this moment there's, the blood pull sitting see I'm happy I'm happy I'm happy I'm happy and you really create, the physiology, of happiness, you, know what I mean by that by using your voice that way then what you've done is the affirmation didn't, do it so much that's putting your body in that state, so.
Affirmations. Are great but, what only most questions, are even more powerful because now you have a reason to be happy you're not just jumping, yourself up and run around with what I call a perma grin where people go why are you happy and go I don't know but it feels good it's. Better to have all these reasons so every morning, you stack more reasons to be happy you come up with more reasons that you're proud more, reasons to be grateful more. Reasons, to feel excited about life more. Feelings, of love if, you stack those every, day you literally anchor them in your nervous system this. Is part of what I call destiny technology's. Controlling. Your state you're asking yourself effective, questions, this, is the power of focus and here's, your exercise, pull, out your success, journal, and right, now I want you to write down five, questions. After, you've designed these five questions what. I'd like you to ask yourself, to do is this first of all let me ask you this if, every, single morning you. Got up and asked yourself five custom. Design questions, that, put you in peak States and they gave you lots of reasons, to feel phenomenal so you weren't just some, guy out there again just babbling. About how excited, you are without any reasons for it I'm not talking about being somebody you just all pumped up for no reason but, if every day you came up with lots of reasons and felt these powerful, emotions, what. Would that do to the quality of your life what. Would that do to your days. Would. It be worth developing, some new habits, if. Your answer to these questions is, yes then. I'd like to challenge you to do something I'd, like you to develop a new habit a one. That will literally conditioned, your nervous system to associate. Powerful, emotions, with waking up in the morning wouldn't that be nice, here's. What I want you to do if you're willing to take on the challenge for, the rest of this program approximately. What twenty two more days each, morning, I want you to answer those five questions and every, time you answer them you've got to create some feelings so if one of your questions was what am I most excited about my life you got to come up with at least two different answers and you, got to think about why you're excited how great that makes you feel you got to actually feel the answer the question two. Answers to each of your five questions, each morning. Again. This is not added work you're, already asking questions, you just may be asking questions like oh gosh, why do I have to get up at this hour that may not be the best question, to ask when the alarm goes off maybe you want to install a new one that empowers, you would, you be willing to do that for the rest of this 30-day program now. I don't want you to do this for the rest of your life because you might get addicted to feeling excellent, for the rest of your life and gosh, only knows what would happen to you then so, don't go any longer than these thirty days for sure but. At least for the thirty days would you be willing to try it okay. Then, go for it so you know your assignment design five questions, that will get resources, out of you make you feel phenomenal each day that'll make you get access to your real powered ability every, single. Day also. I want to say to you please use your success journal, to, write down each, day a little bit about what's happening to you what, are you noticing have, you already begun to notice that your attitude has changed obviously. But, also if you notice that maybe you're willing to take some chances through, being more decisive, you're taking some actions you've been maybe more powerful, in some of your communication, have, you decided maybe to take some actions like lose weight or stop smoking, and you're like day three or four of that or are, you just feeling better about the possibilities. Of your future other, words each day you, might want to just keep a journal jot. Down a couple of key ideas about what you learn that day or what you're experiencing, in your daily life besides, this program. I've kept journals for years because I believe that if my life is worth living it's worth recording and for, me what journals are is a way to go back and notice my growth because.
Otherwise What happens for a lot of us is we get caught up but, if you have a journal you can look and see I you've grown in your development and your ability, and where you are in your life in addition, your journals, and things that you can give later on to your children someday, they can look back and learn from the lessons you've learned in your life sir. And valuable, I hope, you'll decide to keep a success journal an ongoing basis. After this program but, see if you get yourself in the habit right now for the next 30 days over. The next 30 days.