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things people ask lgbtq first parents how did that happen do you ask straight couples this please don't please don't ask anyone no one wants to tell you about their sex life or their trip to the clinic or how much money they did or did not spend making a baby side note they also don't want to tell you the potentially traumatic backstories of their adopted or fostered children no one owes you their history and fyi it's not a joke if it's only funny to you it's just boring sweetie when i go dumpster with someone for the first time i try to pay attention to the look on their face when i first hand them something like a pizza everyone reacts a bit differently like it's pretty cool that you can find a cantaloupe and three bags of oranges in the trash but it's also pretty gross you get out of the dumpster and the ride home stinks of trash and then you have to touch those pizzas all over again and they make the most interesting sounds and the faces people make when they eat the pizza make all the grossness worth it we get to play with our food like i wonder what we could do with 15 pounds of fruit and some whipping cream i guess we've got no choice but to whip it it's kind of messy but what else could we possibly do with those strawberries eating fruit with people who helped you harvest it from the trash and then clean it and then performatively eat it in front of a camera for likes is a particular kind of experience the food is special and we treat it that way it came from our shared effort and when we eat it it's nourishing white supremacy benefits from maladaptive cluster b traits because white supremacy needs people to have damaged empathy so that it can continue to have a hierarchical system if your empathy is fully intact you don't look at a hierarchical system and go yeah that's just that's fair you don't look at the value of people and human beings and see that as something that is um measurable or that it could be degraded because of something about that person because if your empathy is intact then you can feel that humans have inherent value most of us don't have intact empathy so we need to think our ways into seeing humans with inherent value get up [ __ ] it's all over listen we had a rough couple of months [ __ ] katrina's from what i've gathered from the comments and my personal research both adhd and autistic people tend to gravitate more towards anecdotal communication which i've done a video on whereas holistic and non-adhd people tend to gravitate more towards question-based communication when you're speaking to someone who isn't autistic or doesn't have adhd or who comes from a culture where anecdotal communication isn't very common the act of interjecting your own story after they share a story can be seen as an interruption for example with the frank ocean concert if someone were to say i went to a frank ocean concert last night it was amazing by me responding oh shoot i saw frank ocean last year he was incredible live someone who doesn't gravitate towards anecdotal conversation would see that as me interrupting their story and cutting them off and saying i'm not interested in hearing any more of what you have to say instead of taking that as me saying oh my goodness i am also really interested in this topic and i am really excited by what you have to say they would see it as oh cool let's talk about me now because i don't care about your story the pause is them looking for engagement looking to see if you're interested in the story looking to see if they should continue on if you are someone who communicates anecdotally after i share my bit about how i saw him last year then the other person would jump on and be like oh that's so cool that you saw him last year at my show he was super engaging with the crowd he was so engaging with the crowd at my show as well and he did this encore performance that was crazy yeah he did the encore too did he play this song for the encore no the show that i saw was from his previous album when he goes on tour next we should totally go together it'd be so much fun that is kind of like an anecdotal conversation what non-adhd and holistic people tend to prefer is i went to frank ocean last night his concert was amazing oh my gosh that's so cool what was your favorite song he performed my favorite song was this this and this and that and that tell me more did anything interesting happen at the concert inviting them to share more about their story because they want to gauge if you're actually interested in hearing them talk about this i'm thinking about all the conversations that have ended abruptly after i've shared a personal story and how good of a conversation we could have had if instead of the person assuming that i was trying to monopolize or center myself in the conversation they just continued to share whatever story they wanted to share i'm usually not trying to center myself or monopolize and i want everybody to be equally engaged in the discussion i'm just excited and sharing my thoughts sometimes i feel like for white liberals black people are more of a theoretical concept that they can intellectualize than actual people whenever white liberals say things like xyz thing disproportionately affects black people does a mental image of a black person or a black family pop up in their head or are we more of an abstract concept to them do they perceive black people as comprehensive human beings with hobbies and personalities and interests or are we nothing more than our oppression i think all the minecraft comments i got on my clay series are really cute people saying oh it's just like minecraft you get the clay from the ground that's it's just like minecraft i think minecraft's a really wonderful game and even though a lot of its fantasy i think the bits that are realistic are really well done and it really is just like minecraft i did get this clay out of the ground cleaned it up myself and now i'm crafting things out of it now i don't know if you could tell but i thought the best thing to start with was something in the game that's actually made with clay so i'm doing my best to make a little flower pot i'm a little bit worried about when i fire it because even when i made a box like this for school and used like a real kiln it still cracked uh and it might just explode too let's hope it doesn't because i think this would be a really cute flower pot to use someday i also did my best to make it as square as possible like when it was mostly dried out i'd just scrape off the sides and that's probably also going to contribute to its structural weakness but it is pretty square europe was never more advanced than indigenous pops european inhumanity came as quite the big shock europeans in america preferred indigenous life and americans in europe didn't see the hype the indigenous critique of european existence was bad for eurocentric colonizer evangelists they needed some way to make europe not look like schnitzel made up material economic progress they imagined every society must be more or less advanced based on the way that they uh gathered food all societies ranked along this linear path because the europeans had made europe look good so instead of other societies being contemporaries with varied ideas about dignified human life europeans pretended other people were hardly human at all to legitimize colonization and genocide let's critically analyze this video in its comment section skin bleaching is the cosmetic procedure that lightens dark areas of the skin to be generally paler practices of this have been traced back to ancient greece and egypt where many people at these time periods would use different oil mixtures to protect their skin from the sun and to keep it a consistent color skin bleaching isn't inherently bad your melanocytes are constantly producing new cells so if and when you do choose to stop bleaching the formation of new pigment will occur many people use skin bleach to treat things like hyperpigmentation melisma and other skin disorders so why are people reacting negatively in the comment section due to colonialism paler skin throughout the whole western world became the standard for desirability it became the symbol of wealth and high status many white women in high class during the 19th century would invest in arsenic pills because if ingested they were believed to keep the pale look of the skin in the face during colonization the white man pushed for the belief that he was superior because he was white and others weren't this led to the disparity of light and dark people within racial minorities ultimately creating colorism in conclusion the person in this video along with the sound is perpetuating the same ideal or an adjacent one that lighter is better oh so you're apexual i'm not even sure sometimes i think it's more like an autism thing like overstimulation well are you attracted to people sometimes i guess you seem unsure when i see my wife i just think about her sitting on me no no no i i get what you're saying like there are also times you look at your wife and you don't think about sure i mean last week weird funeral we have moods and there's certainly times that i'm distracted by things like the odors oh don't be one of those no no no i i love a good sit for me it's uh it's breath it's always breath yeah i'm incredibly aware of my breath and when i get close to other people i smell theirs oh come on just choose me down man gum covers your breath but sometimes you know leave saliva behind and usually i'm fine but sometimes it's really distracting and then i feel bad good god just go to the dentist i have it's not a bad breath thing yeah i am really sensitive to smells like you've got a weird odor coming from your air conditioning what yeah so you two don't have packs uh i love packs but i also understand the overstimulation thing like if i've had a rough day or i'm at someone else's place i don't know sometimes it feels like i'm just trying to get through it and then i feel really guilty for feeling that in the moment and just makes it worse yep so like all the time for me um actually yeah it's kind of like when you give your partner a back rub like i love making my partner feel good but it's more of a task for me i don't like being touched and hair in my face and the temperature so it sounds more like an autism thing than being apexual but i don't even really do it on my own that's where you and i would differ okay well like when you see someone naked like what do you feel um i don't know that one i'm a little confused on so corn like i i don't really look that often but when i do i think it might be more of a curiosity thing oh i mean then i understand i kind of want to see everyone naked everyone adults but yeah i mean the human body is fascinating do you ever like think someone is like aesthetically attractive but not sexually yeah maybe that's what it is with corn so you might be apex but what if it's pavlovian like i've just associated over stimulation with anything factual maybe it's just open-ended i mean understanding your past is a great way to figure yourself out and it sounds like you have a lower than average pex drive which may be inherent or conditioned and all that's fine if you're happy but maybe you should be figuring out where you're unsatisfied sexually and exploring that with genuine curiosity i like that but how do i know if it's something that i want that i'm not getting or if it's something that i want because i know my partner's unsatisfied this would have ended so much more beautifully if we just shut the camera off when he got done why cbt does not work for autistic people the formulation of autistic people's experience of mental health abiding by the cognitive model is likely to be a poor approximation of our experiences a core feature of autism is that we think differently applying a non-autistic model of thinking is a recipe for gaslighting and confusion i have personally had many models that i have had applied to me or applied on myself and i have a lot of confusion about my own mental health due to this the thought challenging aspect of cbt is likely to be experienced as gaslighting as well considering the challenges that autistic people face are often a realistic interpretation of what is going on autistic people experience discrimination in most aspects of life and the world is not designed for us furthermore there are significant trauma as part of the autistic experience to challenge the thoughts that are coming from the trauma is inappropriate then you get to the behavioral component many if not most autistic individuals seeking care are in autistic burnout to suggest to do more activities and to try to work up to activities or expose themselves to things that are distressing is harmful and likely to increase burnout and decrease hope autistic people need validation for the behavioral challenges that they are having and supports put in place for being able to meet needs that they can't do themselves when they're burnt out finally the emotional component of cbt many autistic people experience alexa thymia this may be expressed as having trouble putting words to emotions i myself find that i often just choose words that seem right at the time and it's not entirely helpful furthermore considering the very high rate of trauma in autistic people it is likely that many emotional reactions are emotional flashbacks or very intense emotional states that need soothing the way in which autistic people are taught to regulate their emotions can suppress their natural inclination such as the need to stim this means for many of us we haven't developed the capacity to self-soothe so when we are asked to do this and find it difficult then that can also create a situation where we feel like we're being gaslighted and feel quite hopeless so what is the answer to supporting the mental health of autistic people i'd like us to consider for a moment that mental health trepid might be iatrogenic this means that illness can be caused by the treatment for example the evidence that aba therapy increases ptsd symptoms in autistic people what if adjusting our models slightly to appeal to autistic people is not enough what if we need vastly different models of how we work with autistic people within society what if we need to redefine wellness and disconnect it from our ability to work disconnect it from our ability to do and define it as our ability to be hi i don't post a lot of crying content on here because why would i uh but my name is lolo and i sell bonnets and last year i had the pleasure the honor of having lizzo support my small business and the past couple of ooh why am i starting past couple of weeks i've seen two videos of her wearing my product and i know that i heard like it's not that big a deal jesus it's not that big a deal to her you know but it's a really big deal to me because like y'all i spent hours on that sewing machine sewing for so long okay hold on i'm just here like posting my product all the time it just makes me so grateful and to get messages from you guys telling me how much you love it like literally it makes my day because i worked so hard and like i've been really excited and really nervous because i am launching a new collection within the next week or so and i just like there's so many new products and stuff so it's like you know i have to market more and abuse different audiences and it's very nerve-wracking even though i love the marketing aspect of everything um but it's like it's nervous i'm nervous because i've never really launched all like different products before and i think seeing that you come across my 48 page was just like a sign of you know god the universe telling me that you know it's going to go well and people are going to love it and receive it and love it as much as i do but yeah i just like celebrities that support small businesses y'all y'all don't know how much it it really helps it means to us you know like she probably just putting her phone on to protect her hair as she should as you should but it means the world it really does so you won't see another crime video from me soon but yeah i would like to talk more about my new collection when i am not crying um but yeah so lizzo if you see this thank you so much um i'd love to see you doing your thing your albums out your clothing line is out you're just doing everything and i'm supporting all of it just like you supported me i love you and have a great day all to you and to all of my customers i love you guys more than you could ever know um you literally this business has saved my life and this business will be nothing without y'all so thank you okay so in this conversation um this is where i learned about something called lesbian land and basically i said something about going to europe and she was like oh this is how i'm supposed to be like oh i'm going to be at lesbian land in the u.s i'm saying i'm like i'm thinking like oh she's joking like lesbian land the [ __ ] is that like hahahaha she goes no there's like a ton of communities where like just women can be a like women it's mostly lesbian it's super fun and i was like oh that sounds super nice like obviously because i'm like oh i want to be around lesbians the [ __ ] so she went on to tell me more about it and i kept seeing her her white women like with a y instead of an e and i thought for a while like it was a typo but then after like after a while i asked her like why she like typed like that she was like oh they just typed like that let's just like what they like do right and i was like oh that's like cool that's cute like women like adorbs right mind you the description of the event had this description i think i'm not gonna read it all out but like i'll read this one section you can pause the read if you want it goes we welcome women and girls who are accepting respectful for specifically female spaces we will not argue with that come have a good time and connect with us on the land i'm thinking to myself that sounds really cool like i want to go you know i mean i'm not seeing the dog whistle of females only i'm not seeing that i'm not something i was reading that description i was like why did she mean like argue i'm not going to argue about that i was like oh like you don't want to like you don't need men around there girl they weren't talking about men that's what i was gonna that's all i'm gonna say she tells me like at the festival she met her girlfriend okay and um basically i was like oh good for you like i want to meet a girlfriend the [ __ ] like i'm sitting here i'm jealous of the conversation i'm like bro i'm jealous so she sends me a picture of this person and i'm just not going to share the picture i'm not going to share a picture because even when she sent it to me she like blacked out the eyes because she was like they're very private i don't want them you know i don't want them you to like you know i don't want them feeling comfortable i was like no big deal but in the picture they're like shirtless right and then with the shirley's picture they have like scars like they had um top surgery right so after seeing that i was like assuming that they were non-binary and asked her about excuse me and i was like oh so she's like non-binary and she was like no no no she's a full woman she's full woman um this is my little butch leslie um she is actually currently de-transitioning i was like oh you know congrats to her i suppose and um you know i'm saying to myself i was like and i told her i was like oh i didn't know that was that really occurred like commonly or even at all because i've only seen like maybe one case and it was like literally a buzzfeed video of someone detransitioning and she was like it's actually such a conservative talking point actually a lot of people would detransition so here's actual conversational thread i'm sorry i'm gonna move my head a little bit but she's like i was like oh wait that's crazy like what i've never heard she goes yeah i mean anytime anyone mentions um dude transitioning people are like that doesn't happen and conservation is invented as a fear-mongering tool but it actually does occur and i was like oh and i was like i'm like [ __ ] i'm telling you guys i'm illiterate so i was like oh is it like did they go on t and like didn't like the feeling or something like i'm i'm stupid okay and she was like oh not exactly more like she lived as a man for four years than discovered lesbian feminism i was saying i was like okay sounds normal to me i'm [ __ ] stupid i don't have much more time but like like for the next part first we'll start off um with an easy question do you have a disability no okay well you're about to get one are you excited okay give you a disability in fact i'm gonna give you three okay so you have autism okay you have a hard time when people change plans you've got a lot of repetitive behavior um you're not super social you have a hard time expressing yourself okay so enjoy some autism there you go unfortunately for you you can't you can't just have one you gotta have the combo set so got some dyslexia hard to read math welcome to this calcula you can't add can't subtract you can't count by twos threes fours also can't remember any of the math you learned you have to carry these with you in your hands oh oh you can't do that you can't do that okay you gotta keep on a scale of one to ten one being very easy ten being extremely difficult you're gonna cry how would you rate making a sandwich i'm gonna go with a number one a number one making a sandwich is pretty easy you're actually going to make a sandwich you're going to show me how you can make a sandwich where are you going don't leave me here that took a really long time i'm digging these into my hands easy task is made more difficult by having disabilities and accommodations might take some of your difficulties away maybe we can give you a cheat sheet maybe we can give you some therapy maybe we can give you some medications yeah i love that but it can lighten the load it can lighten the loading some areas of additional support or even substitution or exception in our life rather than just accommodation because sometimes it isn't enough and it would still make this task incredibly difficult especially if this were your job or it were timed mm-hmm that's great kailyn i really like that this man had misogynistic views and behaviors because he did he said so i think that he says so because malcolm x does not believe himself to be unworthy of critique he wants to be critiqued he's warning you against seeing leaders as so big so great so invaluable that you're willing to apologize for him because he almost apologized for this man that would later help orchestrate his death he started to apologize and say well don't we think of the ark when we think of noah instead of him being a drunkard you know who thought of him being a drunkard in church a kid that has descended from lots of family members particularly male ones that drank a lot i never forget that noah was a drunkard it is the first thing that i think about him those of us that are harmed by misogyny don't ever have the luxury of the rose-colored glasses that everybody else not everybody else that black men in particular get to see about the civil rights leaders they were doing things that had you in mind they were doing things that harmed me no i don't forget some people if you made it to the end thank god please send us as many people as possible i swear to god like you guys are saints thank you so much because i promise you we all could have been me you know what i'm saying or what i could have been here's the last part of the story and here's the end of the timeline i was still talking to this person for a while as you can probably gather from those messages we talked for probably a year two years or something like that and messages just like this often okay but it wasn't until i graduated that a non-binary classmate of mine exposed this person the girl for having a literally turfy tumbler like i mean i'm talking bad like exposer they go on their story on instagram they're like yeah like i found out this person's a turf they like spell out everything that they've been saying those dms but like they're literally like this is this is you know bad like this is you you know the word i don't even want to show you guys the tumblr because it was everything she said to me it was obviously 10 times more disgusting and ruthless and disrespectful and honestly full of hatred that i'm not gonna lie guys i started crying like i i know that sounds like so lame bro like oh god this isn't even about me it was just like i read i went on that tumblr page guys and it was full of the most like sickening stuff i feel like i felt like i felt sick reading it i was reading everything every post everything and i was i was i almost was like this can't be true you know what i'm saying i was like this is my friend she wouldn't say these things she's smart you know what i'm saying it's that non-binary person at my college hadn't exposed her there's no way that i would have made it out this pipeline she was spoon-feeding me these concepts and i was just eating and doubling i i just i was i didn't understand what i was i didn't understand what i was even agreeing to does that make sense until again it was too late when i tell you guys it is not enough that to say that you are anti-turf you have to know the rhetoric they spew you have to know how they're spoon feeding this information you have to know the dog whistle terms i'm again i'm going to go over this tomorrow but you have to put the work in it cannot be just a loose and fast i'm just i'm against this like i said in the beginning of this video it's there's a reason why they're called terps and not this and it's because they're snakes
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