Can You Do Business With A Person That Wants You Sexually

so can we can we can we do it in five ready all right i'm gonna let y'all know now some of this stuff gonna be explicit all right all right y'all ready for another edition of relationship hour here with sam silk relationship tuesday i'm your dj dj kilo we got dj ryan wolfe on the panel miss kenya brown and the funny guy bridge and miss micah dixon michael dixon 1079 in the house it's about to go down welcome to the party welcome to the party i just found out kenya that um ryan is aversion to this yes all right so here this is his first time on the relationship our table micah micah2 your version we have some versions at the bar this is some of the first time we want to say what's up to everybody watching what's good make sure you uh leave your comments inside of the feed and we'll read some of these comments it's going to get crazy it's going to be this conversation how long this lasts about we're going for an hour okay one hour straight and we talking about everything a lot of these questions i have not got a chance to read until now so i just dive into them so and so i have to read someone's handwriting too so if i sound like uh what's wrong with sam it's not liquor yet rich how you feel man what's going on with yourself it's midnight been great bruh what's up we just toured up here this weekend you know how i go you got it in oh yeah i got a shout out my man jake staley my home girl demetria george yeah they came through like a like a hurricane for father's day yes sir yes sir one time britain grace tank got to say what's up to them and then yeah lol brielle yes and micah how was the show today oh it was great uh good energy um was off yesterday so came back hyped and into it so yeah it was good i feel a little bad wolf then i took off you said well i took off the question is are we celebrating independence day still now i'm gonna go to work you gonna go to work no i ain't going to work you know damn well ain't going to work [Laughter] is it okay to take your mlk dog off that day i'm taking it off to you like give me all my days yeah yeah all right kenya you been good i'm always good okay all right we're gonna dive into these questions and anybody in here can respond all you gotta do is wave come close i give you the mic as well as on facebook we read some of your comments i like this one someone asked the question how charming is too charming do you think that is fake for somebody to be too charming to like too too charming yeah too charming like so so charming that it's kind of corny charming no i'm actually shaman's where you feel like he's a snake charming he'd be amazing yeah yeah no that's possible yeah yeah yeah you could be so charming that is scary i think you're gonna look too overboard on the compliments i mean not compliments more so the energy you're giving off the feel like you're trying to be smooth if you smooth you smooth yeah you if you got it you got it but you just trying it's like come on i'll see you too much [Music] right you about to run up my credit right right right right right take my stuff show my food what would be give my abt card you over there mookies with your ebd cards yeah too i don't like that mistakes yeah so what's an example of two charming anybody can hit that blunt get it i'm trying to think about what that could be now ladies y'all know kenya michael y'all know you men are always that mean overly friendly this too charming me like overly friendly like when your spouse or significant other is like overly friendly with the opposite sex is that what too charming is that what i think this is in relation to him hitting on you right yes i'm trying to get with you him trying to know you oh i got one i got him i think that would be charming to where he was also charming your friends too so you charming me got my attention but now she charmed and i don't like that okay that's two characters can't charm us charm me not us this ain't us thing well it depends on like if we just met that's cool keeping right here this direction this alignment not over here okay but but we didn't see her we didn't see her yet i've seen it that's too charming now you're doing too much well i think it may be too much hitting agenda i'm just gonna put a scenario out yeah dude don't got no house oh the girl got a house oh he's so charming like i just want to be as close to you as possible he come over and clean your house i don't want to leave you yeah i'm going to clean your house then why don't you wipe the candles rub your feet one day turn into a week then a week turn into a month right okay now i gotta stick up for the charming people because only if it's real only if it's real and i must say that my guy right here i've known him for a really long time rich green he is very charming always complimentary it doesn't matter whether you're male female [Music] you know whatever yes so he's naturally charming naturally he just gone compliment yeah everybody he's he's just wired like that to see what's good in people he gonna pick it out he's gonna give you a couple [Music] no micah is the person that you're gonna come down the hallway and she's gonna find something nice to say and yeah she just she says nice stuff it's nice to be nice yes yeah is that charming though i think it is i think it's a charm i think it's her personality see it depends on some people can take her being nice and sitting hello take that the wrong damn way she blacked me hey who wrote that question that's what i want to know who wrote that brother i don't think there's a such thing as two charmander no no can i have another crown no such thing i mean i guess because i'm overbearing though so i wouldn't notice yeah i just think oh they matching my energy they like ooh those are two [ __ ] right there boy i like the match energy you like the passion with no hidden agendas though with no ill intentions i like the match [Laughter] next question y'all ready for it let's go all right all right all right uh can you have a business relationship with someone who likes you sexually who said no they said real quick no david turned around and turned around she hit a nerve she was like she called me can you have a business relationship with someone who who likes you sexually no likes you sexually like you that's hard they like they like you somebody is hard in this situation so possibly all right i'm listening wolf talk to me i mean if you have the willpower to be like because if the person is an asset and can take you and your business to the next level and you got to you know what i'm saying is it a person that's going to take the i'm cool and be like i'm not about to mess with you what i'm saying that's the question i need to know are they still willing to work with you if you like keep turning them down or if y'all hit it i understand she or he they must be attracted to because i'm listening i always listen to the question right can you have a business relationship with someone who likes you sexually do you like him or her sexually because if you don't like him or her it's not going to happen any damn well exactly you ain't going to play with fire like that playing with fire gets you burned you get your burst oh so what you're saying is that you both people mutually have an attraction yeah okay just because the way they wrote the question is one person so if you're not number one if you're not even interested in him or her right then hell no right because it don't make sense that means that you but if that's a different thing that gets scary yeah it's different yeah that gets scary rich it's according to what the business is well like you just said if it's unrequited love or a sexual desire then it they'll make it different but it's according to what the business is like if it was strip club i wanted a strip club no for instance that would work if you were in the pawn in the pornhub i'm just saying you got a lawyer amazingly that just flew in from out of town and he meets a prostitute well that's a business relationship he has to be safely attracted to it isn't that the whole gist of this yeah don't be short-sighted people oh my god you're so close-minded kenya let's go to the bar anybody want to make a car all right all right young lady you said you had an opinion about this it's a no for me especially if both parties are attracted to each other the lines are going to get blurred and now we're no longer in a business relationship we are in a personal relationship it's not you cannot do both can't happen i think i think you know what i i agree i agree hello we got somebody over here i agree and i and i disagree because i think it takes it takes maturity to make that decision because for example you you still work with people sometimes and you're attracted to them you feel me so so you just gotta make that you gotta make that decision it depends on the person but you you ain't gonna quit your job because both of y'all sex attracted to you it depends on the person you might have to you just ain't gonna hit him oh bring her she need the mic again oh okay see over there like that there's a lot of money a lot of variables in there because because you y'all could have sexton to be bad and then you know what i'm saying it was whack it's whack and then it's like all right we tried it you know what i'm saying but that still makes y'all cool that's what i'm saying you could be or the thing is like okay we have fun but it wasn't working or they could put that thing on you and now you're like marry me tomorrow you know all right break it down queen what was you saying no you you you oh i think if it is we are not going to have sex then yes you absolutely are going to have a big relationship yeah because attracted or not then all right all right one time next up because i know i know you want to who won't you want to respond to that if you're just tuning in we're talking about can you have a business relationship with someone who likes you sexually and i take it as as we got to here with him it's out because it's that's that one person takes two to have a relationship agree for sure get the mic a little closer to it go ahead less or less than friendly and more flirtatious then how do you then conduct business because it's like yeah this yeah you see this invoice with your fine ass it depends on mindset yeah get the mic closer so we can hear you i think it's a mindset thing like where's your aim where's your goal going you know what i mean what i think she's saying it's a mindset because it's possible i think it's possible but it's like where's your head at are we still going to keep it to where we're aiming at you know for our careers and our future and then have fun when we have fun with no feelings involved you know how much more fun work would be if you knew he was going to have sex when you got there ah we need an air horn i love lunch breaks right hey hey player hey let's just play a holler right quick he said he thinks richard had perfect attendance last year i just what you got to say marcus what you never said i just think it's like maturity thank you keyword if you can be mature and keep and privacy too because nobody would know that y'all having sex right if you don't run your mouth thank you i've never had a problem so i'm gonna keep telling yourself shame the devil go ahead and that's yeah spoken like a man who's sleeping with someone at work right he's like it's all good yes because he's good i want to go what he said on maturity anybody ever anybody ever been in here and i i know yeah i know you're going to say amen to this right anybody ever been in here you've been somewhere and there was three people used to holler at in the same room no definitely nobody no nobody definitely no yeah my birthday party who businesses [Music] [Music] say if you want your business to continue you probably don't want to cross that line because if something goes wrong if something goes left on the relationship side whether it's whack and you ain't trying to go back there no more my business my business is too valuable to be risking it so i can't do it don't risk the business because everything gonna have to end if things don't work out well that sounds like a marriage it sounds like a marriage so that means that you shouldn't probably you shouldn't probably do no nobody marriage with dude yeah you mess up the church money let me tell y'all something right now can i be can i be real let me be real with y'all everybody can't handle breaking up and still making money yes listen whether you marry or whether you so to answer your question yes you can if you mature enough like my brother said okay if you're mature enough everybody can handle that you got married people who can't handle that so how some of you single people gonna handle that but it takes maturity some people can this is why you gotta have conversation and vow with somebody before you start making the squirt yeah wait wait yeah you have to find out once she squirts [Music] of marriage when you said that comment and then kimberly harris said uh why you give anyone five minutes of time uh what did that mean five minutes what you mean kim oh even giving them the time of day is that what you meant your heart remind me not to work with any of y'all i thought he was being funny trying to say oh you go give him all he was gonna give him was five minutes i thought he was going with all right next question y'all ready uh this person is asking why is it so hard to trust nowadays why is it so hard to trust nowadays social media instagram twitter social media social media got a big part of it um we see so many yeah we see so many things and um you got to think back in the day when there was no social media one nobody ever got caught they did things never got caught oh that's a pack people will take you maybe and then your woman has set up a dummy page it was more different options too yeah there's more options to be able to mess around and cheat and do stuff than they did yeah that did that right there in trouble before facetime before phones it was happening we just never knew about it or seen it exactly the genes were still there men were men still back in 1980 1960 you still had to go out though and you know it's easier because you can find somebody right here yeah and do you do but then you have to actually go somewhere and you know what i'm saying i i i i agree but i also think that it's just it's just it's like like we're talking about is this a different time it's like like you said earlier everybody was doing it but now that phone you you like you like one picture that means you you want to hit it am i right no you just went is it all how many okay how many ladies in the relationship in the room all right but if you're in a relationship and your man likes a video of a woman twerking do you have a problem with it he bet not he probably don't yeah we like you oh yeah if he has a favorite he has a favorite no he's got a favorite no i'm the favorite thank you you supposed to be watching all this goodness what you talking about you can't really hear us she's absolutely right i do adjust to the favorite i am the favorite we can watch together i don't mind that what you gonna say though let's role play what you gonna say if we watching we watching together what you said bring the mic closer to your other video this is cute please don't overwhelm our relationship with buttcheek videos like like we are cool you know i like them too but like chill out it's just like we're not insecure don't make it like that because we could both play both games can i like 10 i can like ten different ones not in a row how many likes can i get her a week [Music] hold on the fellas back there being quite so disappointed them let me just tell you all this this just don't even open that door with my wife how's she she can look i don't even know what you look at you ain't got time i don't give a damn i don't have time i don't care who cares yeah i'm not looking at my man's social media not at all if she did i'm not tripping yeah see that's because y'all old people young people got time for it i don't have time you like this model that's beautiful that's half naked on i can't believe this but let her post a picture like that let her get half [ __ ] why do you want to be showing off but that's what you like i disagree with i don't trip on that either looking at another woman on the videos and everything because i um do the research on the scripture incident in proverbs it said let your own woman let her breast satisfy you [Music] y'all about to go to the altar tonight just letting y'all know you heard her tracy chandler got the book here through the lord we can stop uh looking at everybody's twerking videos right look at only y'all show us some love we have an offer here we want to show love we always show love and i want y'all to go get a book talk to her tonight get on the panel get a hold of a panel all right one day we always love some black excellent all right let's go to the next question assumptions here in a relationship what's wrong with friends with benefits what is wrong with fans uh friends with no no no no friends just friends i'm just reading what they have on here if you if you have too much people i don't think nothing wrong with it true if it's too mature people i don't think nothing's wrong with it the problem is there's always going to be someone that loves the other more than the other one oh do you think so i have it happen to me right now oh you got a friend with benefits yes and he is very attached to me and i'm like hold on you can't be putting it down like that you're putting it on but you know what you have people you squat [Music] no he's not he's a [Laughter] i know what's going on [Laughter] but no let's talk about that anybody want to hit that uh what well you know what what's wrong with friends with benefits i have to agree with wolf thank you okay [Music] he can't be a part of your business but he up in your business make up your mind right right uh he can handle both no let me tell you you have to be careful because feelings because you you have stages and you have to be able to sniff out when he or she is starting to trip yes thank you thank you for choosing and it's up to you if you're transparent you can work yes you you you can be like listen ain't [ __ ] going on hey listen here i ain't trying to be with nobody i want to enjoy you i want to have some fun but you have to understand and know when to cut stuff off so if you start taking her to the day and mary j blige comes you take a lot of time right then she's doing boyfriend stuff right now that's that's that's what you know the problem is is when the when she be like yeah what you doing oh you're about to go chill with old dude today and then the dude oh you about to okay you know what i'm saying you feel some type of way because she's chilling with another guy now that's when you know it's a little you feel in some type of way but if you know what i'm saying that's the problem but you mess up the friendship because then you know they're expecting a little extra benefits every time they see each other but you better sit on the sideline and like wait till i offer you a piece of this here here go the problem though i will say this though this the problem is this though and this this is one thing i will say is is us as a man regardless how we want to look we are competitive we can say we're not but sam you you want to be the greatest radio personality what you do you know you do i want to be one of the greatest djs there's a purse it's a comp it's still a competition even if you don't put it out there but you know you want to be one of the best so now the thing comes in when you want to spend time what you're doing tonight and she says i'm about to be with him i can answer that i can answer that so everything no everything everything wolf said his facts right over me but that's when that's this is this is because y'all don't want to admit that men catch feelings too in those situations so so hold on the key word tonight is gonna be maturity though right i'ma go back you started right so when you start this is for men and women when you start feeling that way but you know your ass ain't ready to be committed to that person you have to back back up you right you do the responsibility is on you if you're not willing to give him or her on that next level if if they want to do that then you have to have a conversation but if if if not you need to chill out you can you can't do that you got to chill out let that woman speak over let that creepy oh bring the mic close we want to hear you if you both have that conversation if that's how you're feeling then if you're mature you'll have that conversation to say i want to take this further but be ready for the answer that's right come on girl come on woman you better talk be ready for that anybody if you if you get that answer and you don't like it move on come on come on you all but that's real it's real why put yourself through it no let me tell you something yo yes everybody snaps [Music] listen tell you something man there's always somebody with better sex than you at that time and moment because even the person yeah even the person you commit to you're gonna have some boring sex with the person that you play but even the batters sometimes have whack sex never some of us like intimacy opposed to sex we want to cuddle be held be secure opposed to always getting different we want them to go get the hot tap the red the hot rag when it's time for that but it's not always what we want now i don't know about men maybe they always do want that but everybody got different people like the cuddle too it depends on what it is yeah it depends on and we now we ain't trying to do it all the time damn it it's game seven and then here you come with this cutting stuff i think i'm so horrible i'm not a cuddler am i right it's game seven baby listen here honey after he hit the shot i'm coming upstairs all right so we we talked about the benefit side all right um a lot of y'all disillusion though i'm just saying what you mean i'm on record saying that look i'm just gonna say this as a man this is good i i don't know what to do with that information rich finish no man to each day on i'm always interested to see how people think and uh it's just amazing i don't know i'm still i'm i'm evaluating all y'alls i listen to these i mean they just broke up with a man down there apparently evaluation they opened a business with a man that was liking some girls pictures that's what's going on down there you're wrong you're wrong for that one you're wrong is she over here she she be controlling her man through her mental thing he's scared to do anything she ain't bigger than my thumb but yeah she ready to fight everybody and then them fellas back there they women must be sitting up here because they ain't saying nothing really if you don't say some real [ __ ] tonight i promise you oh my god all right let's go to the next question you're having a good time so far make some noise oh yeah oh yeah all right all right we got about like 20 more minutes to go why do we compete so much in our relationship this is someone's question why do we compete so much in our relationship i don't come with your he was up he kicked me down further and i was like damn damn damn your big brother come talk to this [ __ ] oh no no i handled it i handled it for sure all right come on now you know i'm from cedar but besides the point i want to help my man get further okay you know that's a good question because i've talked to some some people and they do i didn't realize that some people do compete or the one person competes because they're their insecurity if they're insecure and they don't know who they are and what what their dreams are and they keep seeing right then they like give it give us yeah they're not there they're not there they make excuses as to why they can't be there or they make excuses as to why they can't support you at that given time i'm throwing an event oh i gotta you know do something else i can't be there for you it's obvious and so then at that point you start kind of like dialing back what you tell that person even if it is your partner you kind of start keeping that to yourself because this is my celebration this is my you know this is your moment and you need to be there for a moment because i'm there for your moment and if you're not going to be there for that moment yeah any of those moments why am i sharing those moments with you just so you can be like a naysayer or an outsider yeah and if they and if they really for you your moment is what their our moment i thank you it's our moment you don't compete with the person you love you don't do that y'all got to be on point it's called one accord i can't i can't i can't i can't apply to that one whoever answered that question i don't relate to that no not at all yeah okay but it takes two whole individuals know who they are anyway you can't get with a broken person anything he's gonna fix him you gotta come healed and hold because i'm already oh you can't come break myself down and i gotta keep you to the curb because i can't do that come home yeah why not fight your demons your childhood trauma get therapy then highlight me say that again people know you hit on something mike people have things that they have not healed from they bring them to the relationship yes and now you dr olynyk that's right wow i feel the same way y'all feel especially ladies y'all get away from men like that get away from these toxic guys that try to control you through negativity a lot of times a lot of times these guys who are incomplete are going to come they're going to try to eat at your self-esteem yo watch out for that and it's little subtle things you'll go to work and you'll hear how beautiful you are this man will never compliment you he'll always find something wrong with you what he's trying to do is tear you down because he doesn't feel good inside [Applause] don't fall for it all those little micro aggressions you got to understand this too y'all and this is and i apologize i'm not blaming anybody but a lot of a lot of us as black men especially are raised by women women watch how you talk about other women in front of your sons yeah because you're feminizing your son and his emotions you got to stop putting every black woman down in front of your son if you got something to say sometimes you got to learn how to bite your tongue and unfortunately nobody's there to tell women that you got to be the mother and the father but your emotion you can't give your son all that emotion that's why you got these men they break up with these women and they kill one of the women's kids to get back at them this vindictive stuff this never happened when we were coming up so be careful a lot of these men are just women with penises so be careful what we got what we got mark talk to us though because everybody watching tuning in leave your questions inside the comments absolutely right about that bring that mic up closer to you how you how you contaminate a person down make the long story short my ex used to always criticize me then when i finally lost my weight the first thing he sat up and said what you trying to be like your kids trying to be little yeah it kind of tear me down but i had to say you know what i'm a beautiful black queen you better say that [Applause] yeah and then he was like okay then he said something else finally messed and i'm glad that you i'm glad that you that you saw that you recognize that so many people stay in those relationships because they'll get to believing what this fool said it took me five years you know what i'm saying it takes a listen we all go through it so i only have five i ain't got twenty women see another woman and they already been tore down so man like some men ain't all men the abuser right but then they go around they black sisters and then their black sisters they look at they look at them like oh she thinks she's pretty she think and we already been beat down and everything so why pay on our sisters yes build that sister up just like she just said she's a beautiful woman and you are beautiful you better say that too and you just helped [Music] one thing i do want to say that i think that we everybody male and female has to look at when you're in a relationship is we don't really think about what we say and how it can affect somebody because someone you you can you can you can have a you can really be a like have a what can i say a shield where anybody else off the street can say something is like but my wife look at me a different way just to look can pierce through everything and be like damn why does she look at me like that it can kind of mess your whole day up when it's like you then might not even admit to make it that way but you're not realizing what you say to a person that care about you hit harder than anybody else and say it again really understand what you can say to somebody can hit so much harder and when they care about you than somebody else that you be like i don't even mean it like that but they because they value you that much you know what i'm saying and they remember that and they were exactly that can hurt them and i you know that's just something i know i have to think about on certain things and while we're there this is why you have to learn how to say i'm sorry yeah okay i want to i want to hit on this when it comes to relationships because sometimes people don't want to admit when they're wrong and you have to be willing to accept the apology some people some people okay okay well hookah some people don't know how to accept the apology you hold yourself in that moment and then you take that thing with you yeah now once you've been in it for a while you'll know if their apology was real or not but but you have to learn how to say i'm sorry and be willing to forgive but not willing to forget repeat forget columbus from cleveland i really got alone and i healed it was no man it was just working my kid it was like i had to heal so i told my father whatever you put me through i forgive you for that he couldn't even sit here and say i was sorry for it but like i forgive you i don't even care so now we can co-parent happily because i don't feel no way about none of that yeah release yourself why would you want to be carrying weight around you but you want to go win and go conquer stuff but you can't because you can't even hit that track field because you got to carry this along i'm not carrying no baggage bye i forgive you let's move forward next yes though i know i got on the man just a second but ladies i got to get on y'all you all have to learn how to accept responsibility for your words just because you're upset doesn't mean you can say any and everything to your mind and then say this is reciprocating the women women women and everything and i will say this monique just gave us an example of this an apology does not have a butt if you apologize apologize humble yourself and don't sit here and say i'm sorry but uh you know i'm sorry but i only did that because you no stop stop stop giving your way yourself you you listen when you when you say no i'm glad you said that man apology because when you holler at god you got to say i'm sorry you can't say to god hey god i'm sorry but you need to understand i didn't mean to forticate lord but she had a big ass so uh you made the ass god you made it so you should understand i thought she was familiar no but but that's real and and let me talk about that on repentance side right you have to something sometimes you say i'm sorry and i'm gonna go with the butt cause i gotta be honest sometimes that person the butt comes in because that person did something to you and they're not willing to say they're sorry but correct but your true healing comes in to just say i'm sorry i forgive you that's a humbling moment to say i'm sorry and forgive somebody who did something to you one last thing and i i'm in mine and then i'ma end my fellas brothers listen to me y'all hear a lot of times when women say what is a real man here's a real man and i want i want the fellas to listen to me really closely this ain't even for the women y'all can listen but if you're a real man be truthful even in your [ __ ] don't lie to her once you lie to a woman you destroy your credibility with her forever she a woman will accept a lot more than you think if she knows what's going on just let her know what the score is and let her know he snaps back there they're getting their snapchat put their camera on their mobile they're getting smashed here's the last no here's the last thing here's the last thing fellas even when your feelings hurt you have to operate in your manhood you have to operate in your manhood and this is what i mean she gonna say something that you ain't gonna agree with but don't be walking around the house when i grew up if a woman argued with a man she was just trying to get at him right no the man nowadays folding arms and rolling their necks and clicking their tongues now that's because they go back to what you said earlier operate in your manhood fellas operate your man remember don't lie be upfront with with what you want and even when your feelings hurt you still take care of the house because i don't care what's going on you can't tell her i ain't paid a rent because you made me mad you gotta pass that blunt real quick because women love a stand-up honest man i'll deal with a man who's honest i can't live with that sometimes with you like they may not know it but i'm telling you you lying like no i want to keep [ __ ] but if he was tell me is this real but but again but hold on mike hold on michael hold on michael honestly that goat that goes to maturity a lot of women ain't willing to accept that you know what i'm saying a lot of times men we will hold our tongue which we shouldn't sometimes we should say this and y'all i don't give a [ __ ] that's the goddamn problem right now religion [ __ ] shut up god damn shut the [ __ ] up i wanna hear this [ __ ] right now [Music] [Applause] yeah yeah it's right it matches the energy you cannot keep disrespecting the man he shut up he's been quiet let me stand up on this he's been no no no no no no no hear me out he's been constantly being disrespected by you he's been she he did this he followed all the [ __ ] that y'all tell us to we like oh [ __ ] we we quiet we quiet because we don't want to hurt you we don't want to do that but shut the [ __ ] up let me speak can i say something because when i respond you cut my ass off and won't let me finish this is real [ __ ] oh no and see and again i respect you i respect you i respect you but if y'all want a man let him be the man don't you don't sit up and keep asking me [ __ ] and then you cut me off then i don't really cause we try you know we try i'ma respect my black queen i'm respecting you i'mma respect you i ain't saying [ __ ] i ain't doing nothing i ain't saying that you know what i'm gonna go to church today i ain't saying that but guess what sometimes some women going back to my point need that they hear that oh [ __ ] he listening he gives a [ __ ] some women not all women some women get there some some of you get you and this goddamn lightweight he'll light weight over there because some men hold [ __ ] in they don't say nothing and then when they do certain [ __ ] you wonder why why is he acting like that right no i'm just keeping it real and i'm giving i'd like to give i like to make some scenarios for certain relationships i talk to people hear people all the time it you may not agree with it because that's not how your relationship you don't talk to your man like you don't do your man like that but some women talk so much [ __ ] today man and disrespect him to the point that he has to say will you shut the [ __ ] up let me say what i gotta say y'all do it all the time you didn't do this you this you that it's just real you gotta you got it may not be you but it's someone it's very true come on i like her come over here you come on up i like her i finally got her fired up okay girl sam you got her around up hold on stop stop hear what i just said i didn't say you just she's talking like you're talking now i'm not saying like hey baby listen that i'm not talking i'm talking about after she has went the [ __ ] off constantly going don't listen to nothing he says ever ever i'm not talking about some hey baby how you doing what the [ __ ] god i ain't talking about that dude i ain't talking about him but on the other side you said that sometimes a no no no it's matching it i'm not saying it like you know i'm not saying you need to demean them but sometimes when they hear that when they hear that real side they get it they catch on no no no no we we hear from you all women don't talk like how you talking right now relationships you see how sweet you are why don't oh if you talk like this i'm like i'm like this i'm like bae most men don't respond when y'all talk we listen to you we listen but if you i ain't talking about this demeanor you have here right now you got me of course everybody loses their temper but you do there's a line and if both of you respect one another if both of you respect one another you will not speak to your mate that way there's fighting fair and there's fighting dirt you don't do that because you can't take it back i'm with you on that you can't it goes back to what i was saying earlier it's about a reaction it's about a reaction but i also feel like saying shut the [ __ ] up i'm a kid i'm gonna stick i'm gonna stay on it cause it turned out cause they have some good ass sex afterwards hold on sam hold on sam hold on hold on micah got something to say go ahead and bring the mic closer to turn michael's mic up i tweeted last week in my friendship my friend was having a debate and she just was going and going and going i could get my point across to my friend she's a girl and in my head i'm like if she don't shut the [ __ ] up why do you keep talking like i get my man be like beautiful quiet and let me say my piece i get it so i heard it i was like when i'm not my head hurting i don't want to deal with this [ __ ] let me explain listen communication is empathy though it's understanding not defending so again i get what men saying they're like shut the [ __ ] up i get it now i've been in the shoes too like [ __ ] beautiful beautiful you see how you was talking to me you spoke to me with respect and love everything you said was one thousand if a man or woman see we looking at it as a man like how she broke it down we look at it as a man and woman that was disrespect sometimes your girl or your boy i'm like [ __ ] when you shut the [ __ ] up that don't make sense bro hold on now somebody need this it don't mean that i disrespect you i don't love you because we together we should know each other and we should know that even when i say that or you say that like oh i got the best i got the best way to describe what sam was trying to say i got the how many y'all got kids in here some of y'all gonna disagree you told him five times stop jumping upstairs yes you will y'all stop that god damn stumping upstairs i'm gonna come in there whoop yo ass get your ass down right now okay okay listen listen listen this is the thing where i do agree with sam have you all seen the movie hold on listen hold on have you all seen the movie and i don't know but you can tell me the one with tyler perry and tiana taylor had to buy rain it is women out there really like that when you do have to be like [ __ ] the [ __ ] yeah he's right and some of y'all got to tell y'all man sometimes if that's that type of dude shut the [ __ ] up about you i'm saying y'all do it see how i mess with you don't do it i kind of like being told to [ __ ] up i'm done hey can i say this oh my god tracy chandler is the author y'all through the lord [Music] being in a relationship for 25 years you cannot be cussing your person out i agree with that why why would you do that regular basis you should not be doing that you should not do it i agree with that i feel like there are certain lines that you don't cross when you are talking to your person you love them you have to speak to them in love and i would rather walk away from the conversation and then come back at another time before we cussing each other out calling each other names out of each other's names and stuff like that but hold i ain't talking about calling her [ __ ] i ain't talking about you you punk ass [ __ ] oh you not none of that but every now and then one of y'all gonna say some [ __ ] one day it should not be a habit at all it should not be you should not be walking around the house cussing each other out but everybody has human moments stop acting like you're perfect even even though you don't say shut the [ __ ] up you got another quote let's go let's go to the next question yeah we're gonna do that no you don't say shut the [ __ ] up you cannot cuss and still say the same thing so have ain't playing i'm doing that every play i still like shut the [ __ ] up shut the [ __ ] up next question y'all better say it well we've been why can't we not talk for a day and not have a problem the next what it says is why can't we not talk for a day and not have a problem the next day if you somewhere cheating just say that [Music] say that i mean we don't have to talk every day but i'ma have some questions wait you said why can't we talk for not talk for a whole day why can't we not talk for a day and not have a problem the next day so to get get her get her mike keep the mics up he released this stuff didn't calm down is that what they're saying he went away for a day we didn't talk at all in what situation there's a lot of context that got to be put in that question yeah can i use my imagination can you hit it right quick i feel that um if you ghost me for a day then you're showing me that i don't really matter unless something is you know we talked about something or you said honey i'm not gonna be available or whatever disagree i disagree so you wouldn't tell your person your significant other like i'm not gonna be a victim there's a lot of context because it was somebody before i was married that i used to talk we were talking we had like a relationship but we would have a day where we wouldn't talk all day but then talk and pick back up the same way that was understood you you had that understanding with that person but if we if we talking every day and then you just go go some people like space or some people got so much going on talk to you today let's talk about that the love is the same you know what i'm saying i don't know but i will still block you my peace matters so my peace is disturbed sit person or not friend or not and i block you my peace matters to me we gotta do a whole show for the city of cleveland so like if i'm thrown off and i got to talk to other people on the microphone repeat repeat what you guys say we do a show that's a good cleveland so me being 100 in my mind matters for people to listen to my show right if i'm thrown off they're throwing off too so yes i will block don't play with me because i'm gonna play with you what you gotta do if we disappear and if it don't matter then it don't matter i'm not calling so if i'm not gonna speak then that's weird but if we're not in that relationship it can be a situation where i don't have to talk to you every day boyfriend girlfriend we're not special so i said it's the context why waste your time it's not wasting time so when you're dating you go through this these different things and you make a decision and decide upon all that and even have a man cave to go be a man when they need to get away from going to baseball they college and they tv and that's nice they have a man for a reason i understand that go to the basement i go to the basement and i'm gonna take you down the stairs go leave me alone right now you're gonna watch that damn suv i'm watching that right now now that's not what i was saying it it's it's fine for you to have your own space but at the point where you don't feel that it's important to talk to me then i'm gonna feel like it's not important for me to talk to you that's just what it is i'm super petty like that i blocked home and if you get i mean if if you don't feel what if you don't feel it's important to talk to me then i might not answer your call the next day that's just what it is sorry so wait a minute you telling me you're gonna give me a hold so if i don't talk to you i know it's okay if i don't talk to you one day can you and i call you tonight if we haven't gonna pick the phone up if you did if if if we are fully involved and you and you didn't say and you didn't say yeah hey honey i'm i'm about to do xyz or i'm about to go out of town i'm not going to be available i'm going to be working i can deal with that it's totally fine it's called communication but if you don't communicate with me and you don't feel that it's important to communicate with me then you're not the type of person that i would deal with and it all goes back then hold on hold on hold on so a lot of times i i you know those of you the first time here i get animated to get y'all charged up but this moment that we're talking about goes back to it by like what are you talking about you say that you can't do that this is how it begins how i can start because you all can't make it on this level you all get into these relationships and y'all get y'all like and then you feel this way she feel that way and then that tension builds up because you don't have the real conversations like we haven't right now different shows different folks yes but you teach people how to treat you so if it's not okay repeat that part again please you teach people how to treat you so if it's not acceptable for somebody to just be ghosting you randomly then you have to express that you gotta say something care about that if they don't care about that then they're not the right person for you and that's just simple all right can we keep it 100 though look at your grandparents can y'all hear me over there look at your grandparents when you went over grandma and grandma house granddaddy grandma house grandma had her room and granddad had his room i have all that she was out of his [ __ ] and he was out of her [ __ ] yes y'all acting like i don't know am i the only one to live in the goddamn real world i mean everybody up here people don't okay so you don't talk to me for a day you think that's hurting my feelings that's normal behavior it's gonna be more than a day brother let me tell you for a guess i'm scoring people i'm score life is scoring me all right all right all right let's go to the next question oh y'all got some good ones we're only gonna do three more questions tonight just three y'all got some good ones in y'all giving up all the questions in here tonight though yeah [Applause] how long is too long in their relationship going without a proposal depends on the energy it depends on the energy vision and the vision my thing is if our visions don't align we shouldn't be dating anyway if our visions don't match up or like have an amount of children in our house where we gonna live that career-wise we shouldn't date anyway it's a vision for me so we know we want to be together and whatever we're gonna pursue dating engagement and marriage but i don't got three five years of me no more so better come with her let me alone y'all hear that y'all agree disagree pisser get off the pot that's what michael said the vision that our business ain't matching up with my life or where i want to be in my life and you ain't get off the pot what do you say i think when you see her get off the pot that's old school yeah i'm old school but i'm with you you have to you have to have a point when y'all start talking about that somebody need to initiate it typically the old school used to be the guy but one of y'all need to initiate it ladies don't need to be in a relationship like that if that's what you want and you don't say nothing about it if not i'm gonna keep on doing going back what you said nope and i wrote a book about it gotta do a plug men do it women alive so if you don't say that that's what you're looking for that's what you want to do i think what happens is yep we look for some magic to happen oh damn she fell out the sky he fell out the sky but if you're if you've been dating you got to the point like that's what you're looking for you need to have be realistic and tell this person that's what you're looking for better that conversation has to happen you need to have at the beginning of dating though you know what i mean what do you want you want to have fun we playing around are we going to try to get married one day right but you don't want to spring that no nobody like wow i think there's no it's no it's no blueprint you never know how i go that that goes back that's two so you got two you never you never know how it goes but sometimes some [ __ ] just happened oh i love her i love him it happens but then you also got those people that they're looking for when they're dating you need to tell them that because if you don't tell them that then they just think oh dinner movies what you got mom okay special repeat that for me special repeat that my fiance i told him from a to z i'm not gonna sit here and wait because i am almost 58 years old two more years i'll be 60. and he said okay i can get with that and just recently about two months ago he proposed to me congratulations [Applause] this is the thing that y'all don't know [Applause] what we don't know this is the thing that y'all don't know it's not even that sometimes and this is where it get hard a man sometimes wants to be in a situation financially in every way to give the woman what they want and if they're not there yet then they're not going to pop that question it's not that they don't want to do it is that you know in the in the perfect world the father is supposed to pay for the wedding anyway that ain't like that no yeah you hear that you hear that so now the bill is on the man so now i want to give my wife the greatest wedding in the world but if i don't got a hundred k or whatever it costs that you think and then and then the flip is the woman don't even want all that we want to give you that what happened if you got a baby there that's because you're a good man we got three what they got to take care of the kids and everything else [Music] true but that raw thing is gonna happen good brother let's just be real the club will continue to be shot up and you got to deal with that that's the fact we about to wrap it up what you got for us homie all right so he got fours with that people you got people come on man so like like how you saying how you not in position where you can give her what you want to give her because i have females coming off because like i cancelled plans because i ain't like right right now like i can't i can't satisfy you how i want to satisfy you know what i'm saying so that's all i want to say i was i was i wanted to say the thing is is as us it's not easy for us to tell the female that so we're going to still keep that i guess you would say ego where we got it going on but we know we don't got it going on how we want to have it so i can't give it to you how i want to give it to you so i'm going to wait and sometimes that [ __ ] yeah take forever and let me say this uh stop making babies if that's not what you want to if you don't want to be with her like that unless both of you very agree yeah unless both of y'all just want to have babies without the ring you know what i'm saying don't don't don't don't be drunk y'all have to agree on that because now now i'm just saying if you say she got the y'all got these three kids but i can't give you the wedding that you want so we're not gonna get married i think that's crazy i just now hold on let me add to that different shows different folks it depends on how your relationship has been going and what y'all doing some of y'all might not need to be married even though you got three kids and the money oh you know what and the money just because the man has the money and gives you what you want doesn't mean he's for you oh stand on your own first don't look for anybody to give you anything that's right make your own like my last time on seconds and i had i wanted my son and his dad that's my that's my dog but he knew i wanted her baby was never a him thing so even though we co-parent very well he knows it was never to keep you around me someone may have kids to keep these men around some of us actually just want the kid around because you know for me my first son gave me all that love i wanted and my second son is just as much and even more so it's like i didn't have the kid for this man i had it for me but he does do his part do i want to marry him i don't know right now he does his own thing and i can't deal right now [Laughter] no but but in fact that's why i said what i said is like you know just because y'all have them don't mean that that you all should be because it can be different things why you all not you all make some beautiful people for sure but don't be doing it thinking like oh we supposed to get listen no you gotta you gotta have that conversation but don't say i'm gonna use these kids as a pawn to get married if you didn't have the conversation and y'all didn't talk about it they do use their kids don't keep them making these babies and you thinking man if you want to agree you talked to him about that before y'all you talk to her before you sit up there and let loose yeah let loose i told him to let loose she said it was all right go back as we close out tonight maturity you want to hear that if you're in the mic didn't that sound like that's one don't move i got it i said y'all are crazy i also feel like you shouldn't get married unless you can pay for the marriage you shouldn't pay for the wedding or have a wedding unless you can pay for it three times so go to the courthouse facts i like that no don't do that just don't get married until you can afford like because a lot of people spend thousands and tens of thousands on weddings and don't stay married yeah and don't stay here and they're arguing because now they're financially messed up and bills can't be paid so that basically means i need my wedding that save a lot that's what that is yeah the order court house just or just make something and then the sermon and you pay for the pastor and you're good did y'all have a good time or not yo you have a good time give it up for our panelists in the building yeah we had a good time y'all come everybody a goo

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